- Single or two word comments, e.g. , woo!, yay, yes, no, please, thanks, absolutely, agreed, seconded, so much, no way, etc.
- "+1" or Facebook style "like".
- Otherwise brief comments, e.g. single sentences.
- A comment that is a punctuation mark(s) to let me know you read, e.g. a period, an asterisk.
- A comment that is a punctuation mark(s) to express your response, e.g. an exclamation mark or question mark.
- A comment that is an emoticon(s) to express your response, e.g. \o/, <3, :), :(, :-D, :-P, etc.
- Long, wordy comments. Rambling is totally okay.
- Comments and links on related topics.
- Comments on single links, entities, paragraphs, topics, or words in the entry. I throw out a lot of things each entry, and I don't expect anyone to have to come up with a coherent comment on each and every one of them to comment.
- Sequential commentary. It's totally okay to comment about one thing as you read it, then another thing in a separate comment, then a third thing after you've chewed on it for a while and feel ready to talk about it.
- Incoherent comments. It’s all good. I would rather have you here and showing interest,, even if it's just a *flail*, than for you to stay silent because you are afraid or unable to get the perfect comment out.
- Talking amongst yourselves in the comments is fine. I like creating a place where people get to interact!
I also welcome:
- Comments on older entries, access-locked or public.
- Comments on VERY OLD entries, access-locked or public. I have many years of archives.
- Comments from people who are not subscribed to me.
- Comments from people who I’ve never met.
- Comments from people who haven’t talked to me in awhile.
- Comments from people who’ve never talked to me.
- I like knowing the provenance of new commenters. If you're new, I'd love to know where you came from and what brought you here.
My great anxiety is that there's nobody out there and I'm shouting into the wind. If you’re feeling like you want to comment with something, feel free to comment with what feels good and comfortable to you, whether that’s leaving a !!! or an essay. If you don't have the spoons for any comment, that's okay, too. No pressure, no obligations.
How I reply to comments:
- I mostly try to reply to comments.
- I normally try to reply to comments as soon after they arrive as I can.
- My comments will probably try to elicit more discussion and longer-form commentary. Part of it is my professional training, part of it is because I like discussions.
- You are never obligated to reply to a reply, nor to write longer-form than you wish.
- If you would like a response to a comment, I encourage you to let me know. “I would appreciate a response to this if possible,” etc. is totally fine with me.
- Absentminded. If I have forgotten to reply to something you want a reply to, a poke is totally okay.
Linking to my entries:
- If it’s public, it’s fair game.
- It’s access-locked, ask me.
- Please do not archive my work without asking me first.
- If you do link to me elsewhere, it warms my heart if you tell me where you linked, but it's not a requirement.
- If something I linked or wrote inspired you, it warms my heart if you link me to it. Also not a requirement.
As of the time of the last edit to this post (02019-01-22), the content of my blog is licensed CC-BY-SA (4.0 Unported), which says that if you use my work for something, your work should attribute me (the user name and a link back to my blog is usually sufficient) and your work should also be licensed under a license similar to the Attribution-Sharealike license. The stuff I link to is not governed under this license and may have additional requirements for you to use.
Adding and access:
If you want to add me, go ahead! Please feel encouraged to do so.
I like new subscribers. I also respect access-locks - if something you created is That Awesome, I'll ask for permission before excerpting or posting elsewhere.
I may not add you back - I tend to evaluate based on what's available on your entries page. If you're mostly access only, it may take some comments or a conversation in a third space before I have an idea of whether I want to subscribe. If your journal is a repository for your fiction efforts, I may not add you back, because I do not have near enough time to properly read anyone's fiction as a part of my daily list crawl. I would probably enjoy it, if I had the time.
I don't give access, generally. For one, nearly everything posted is public, so you're not missing out on anything by not having that access. If I do post something under access-lock, it is probably something intensely personal, and so I'd be hand-selecting who I want to see it.
(This idea stolen and modified from trascendenza, who first broached it in their own journal when talking about commenting culture and their own anxieties.)