The current macho conception of men is contributing to their shorter life spans, whether through violence against others or violence against themselves. This conception leads to things like men pretending their wives are more dictatorial than they really are, even as those men have been told since birth that women are their sexual property. They also appear to be threatened by the possibility of a woman as their supervisor or threatened by the idea of taking a woman's surname in marriage. And that produces articles like a Glamour article, expertly shredded by Vice, about what women can do to please their men, which includes a lot of things that sounds like making men or to be stupid and women out to be sexbots. (Men's Health clickbait headlines do much the same stupidity.) Not to mention all the microaggressions coded into other types of masculine presentations. (More on microaggressions from ![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
happydork.) This attitude can also mean never truly getting over a breakup.
The masculinity we can aim for is the inclusive masculinity on display in Avatar: The Last Airbender, which I'm enjoying getting to discuss withamarie24 in her watchthrough. (Also, now there are recipes inspired by the show to try. And an excellent meta about how the Korra is a series that deconstructs itself as each season goes along paired with showing how combat styles of characters shows us who they are outside of fighting and makes my thesis about Korra's combat evolution far better than I can.) If nothing else, the available emotional space for men has been severely curtailed by macho culture bullshit and toxic masculinity. This extends to the idea that only video games that use, react to, or otherwise contain violence are real video games or not noticing the women that are there and have always been there in genre fiction, or continuing to restrict the available female forms in animation by not employing more women at the helm of design, direction, and animation.
Here's the thing - it shouldn't take Wil Wheaton talking about his depression, and about the stories he hears from fans about their depression to open the space for men to talk about their emotions. But, somehow, it seems easier to do it to Wil, or to use Wil as the proxy for ourselves.
Funny enough, younger men prefer men and women in nontraditional gender roles in their media. So perhaps we're starting to take down those structures. And we can find good reasons for menopause - to get women into leadership roles.
Scalzi on the still obvious difficulties of women being believed when they say that men have done something horrible to them. The example is Bill Cosby, but really, this article and its condemnations could have been written about anyone who achieves even a modest form of fame before or while they are doing bad things. If you substituted "high school / college athlete" in place of Bill Cosby, the story is the same, and maybe the names and places change.
Unsurprisingly, these kinds of situations give women a lot of anger and not many places for them to express it or use it to make systematic change. Although sometimes things come together beautifully in a coordinated angry cat hiss upon hearing a story of a microaggression delivered, or in the adoption of symbols of noncompliance and their prominent presentation.
Elsewhere, it means advocacy for actual strong female characters that are then put critical and do things, instead of being the strong female character used as the yardstick for the main character or as the romance interest or as Ms. Exposition.
It also means acknowledging that choice is not the sum total of feminism, as choice is often influenced by a lot of antifeminist things, and that we need to stop feminizing someone when they believe they are wrong.
And it can also mean giving the side-eye to the approval of an antidepressant supposed to improve libido in women, despite not a lot of testing done on women, or comparisons to other things that might also help libido. And there's all the side effects, too, including the one that has lots of men congratulating themselves that they've finally figured out how to make women want sex, without having to do anything that is desirable to women.
Fandom is large and contains works that can be critiqued while being sensitive to their topics. Doing this well is very difficult.
Are diversity panels being used to avoid actual diversity in panels?
The Geek Feminism Wiki has a page on protecting yourself of you should become the target of coordinated trolls and attackers.
Anxiety and worry rob us of the ability to appreciate cool things that happen in the moment. And being smart is intelligent can often contribute to extra anxiety and other problems. Swell, he says, dealing with both anxiety and intellect. One bird at a time. That said, I'm also trying some of the things that work sometimes if you have anxiety, and they seem to be helping some. I also have a lot of identification with the way that an existential crisis is described for women, even as I recognize the existential crisis of the man in comparison - mine fits both. And there's some cheer in the exhortation that we should all be trying to not feel ashamed about ourselves and our experiences, instead of pursuing a relentless happiness agenda, and in the idea that everyone practicing lovingkindness would produce a far better world, but despair can set in when you're not making big changes immediately or over time. One bird at a time is the pace we all usually get, but it always feels slow. Good luck, bad luck, who knows?
Through knock-on effects from one juvenile indiscretion or having sex before the law believes you're nature enough to, a person's life can be made extremely difficult to ever get back to normal, including deportation or an inability to get a job.
To the disappointment of many a moralizer, it turns out the best ways to help people are often to give them money and let them try to fix their own problems.
An undertaker that believes that involving the survivors in the process of getting the dead ready for their burial will be beneficial to their grief.
The Hugos happened, and neither the Puppies nor the Scorched Earth factions win, in addition to passage of new ways of nomination to try and prevent the slate idea from taking hold. It's likely the reaction from this will be a lot of hurt and accusations, or lots of posts "confirming" the perceived bias from the Puppy faction. If you interview the people behind much of the Puppies, as in this Wired article about the Hugos, you can see the similar strains of thinking, taken to different degrees of execution. Not unlike, actually, the various perceptions and actions of people under the umbrella term "brony", which can be anything from a happy member of the Periphery Demographic to people insisting the show rewrite itself to suit their tastes.
That said, voting for a work that does representation well looks shallow and is actually deep, because it's not easy to do and often requires the insight of shared experience, in addition to all the crap that his along with being a minority is marginalized person and trying to get your work published and recognized. There are lots of ready ways to incorporate more diversity info your reading list, especially if in genres that chronically recommend white men.
For someone like Samuel Delany, this Hugo situation is one of many like it through the genre's and society's history. Same goes for those who have been paying attention to the comics industry as it twisted itself in knots to avoid acknowledging manga, comics for children, and women creators, until it couldn't do so any more this year.
Things to remember when your loved ones or good friends suffer from depression, including the idea that at some times, a depressed person is like a drowning one - throw them a lifeline rather than trying to wade in after them.
The polished technology available in the first world is created with processes that leave the third world with highly toxic landscapes.
Scientists talk about the message they would leave for future species should humans die out. it mostly has to do with the scientific method, or sentences with surprising complexities as more science knowledge would be obtained.
Last for tonight, because we need it, sleeping kittens.
happydork.) This attitude can also mean never truly getting over a breakup.The masculinity we can aim for is the inclusive masculinity on display in Avatar: The Last Airbender, which I'm enjoying getting to discuss with
amarie24 in her watchthrough. (Also, now there are recipes inspired by the show to try. And an excellent meta about how the Korra is a series that deconstructs itself as each season goes along paired with showing how combat styles of characters shows us who they are outside of fighting and makes my thesis about Korra's combat evolution far better than I can.) If nothing else, the available emotional space for men has been severely curtailed by macho culture bullshit and toxic masculinity. This extends to the idea that only video games that use, react to, or otherwise contain violence are real video games or not noticing the women that are there and have always been there in genre fiction, or continuing to restrict the available female forms in animation by not employing more women at the helm of design, direction, and animation.Here's the thing - it shouldn't take Wil Wheaton talking about his depression, and about the stories he hears from fans about their depression to open the space for men to talk about their emotions. But, somehow, it seems easier to do it to Wil, or to use Wil as the proxy for ourselves.
Funny enough, younger men prefer men and women in nontraditional gender roles in their media. So perhaps we're starting to take down those structures. And we can find good reasons for menopause - to get women into leadership roles.
Scalzi on the still obvious difficulties of women being believed when they say that men have done something horrible to them. The example is Bill Cosby, but really, this article and its condemnations could have been written about anyone who achieves even a modest form of fame before or while they are doing bad things. If you substituted "high school / college athlete" in place of Bill Cosby, the story is the same, and maybe the names and places change.
Unsurprisingly, these kinds of situations give women a lot of anger and not many places for them to express it or use it to make systematic change. Although sometimes things come together beautifully in a coordinated angry cat hiss upon hearing a story of a microaggression delivered, or in the adoption of symbols of noncompliance and their prominent presentation.
Elsewhere, it means advocacy for actual strong female characters that are then put critical and do things, instead of being the strong female character used as the yardstick for the main character or as the romance interest or as Ms. Exposition.
It also means acknowledging that choice is not the sum total of feminism, as choice is often influenced by a lot of antifeminist things, and that we need to stop feminizing someone when they believe they are wrong.
And it can also mean giving the side-eye to the approval of an antidepressant supposed to improve libido in women, despite not a lot of testing done on women, or comparisons to other things that might also help libido. And there's all the side effects, too, including the one that has lots of men congratulating themselves that they've finally figured out how to make women want sex, without having to do anything that is desirable to women.
Fandom is large and contains works that can be critiqued while being sensitive to their topics. Doing this well is very difficult.
Are diversity panels being used to avoid actual diversity in panels?
The Geek Feminism Wiki has a page on protecting yourself of you should become the target of coordinated trolls and attackers.
Anxiety and worry rob us of the ability to appreciate cool things that happen in the moment. And being smart is intelligent can often contribute to extra anxiety and other problems. Swell, he says, dealing with both anxiety and intellect. One bird at a time. That said, I'm also trying some of the things that work sometimes if you have anxiety, and they seem to be helping some. I also have a lot of identification with the way that an existential crisis is described for women, even as I recognize the existential crisis of the man in comparison - mine fits both. And there's some cheer in the exhortation that we should all be trying to not feel ashamed about ourselves and our experiences, instead of pursuing a relentless happiness agenda, and in the idea that everyone practicing lovingkindness would produce a far better world, but despair can set in when you're not making big changes immediately or over time. One bird at a time is the pace we all usually get, but it always feels slow. Good luck, bad luck, who knows?
Through knock-on effects from one juvenile indiscretion or having sex before the law believes you're nature enough to, a person's life can be made extremely difficult to ever get back to normal, including deportation or an inability to get a job.
To the disappointment of many a moralizer, it turns out the best ways to help people are often to give them money and let them try to fix their own problems.
An undertaker that believes that involving the survivors in the process of getting the dead ready for their burial will be beneficial to their grief.
The Hugos happened, and neither the Puppies nor the Scorched Earth factions win, in addition to passage of new ways of nomination to try and prevent the slate idea from taking hold. It's likely the reaction from this will be a lot of hurt and accusations, or lots of posts "confirming" the perceived bias from the Puppy faction. If you interview the people behind much of the Puppies, as in this Wired article about the Hugos, you can see the similar strains of thinking, taken to different degrees of execution. Not unlike, actually, the various perceptions and actions of people under the umbrella term "brony", which can be anything from a happy member of the Periphery Demographic to people insisting the show rewrite itself to suit their tastes.
That said, voting for a work that does representation well looks shallow and is actually deep, because it's not easy to do and often requires the insight of shared experience, in addition to all the crap that his along with being a minority is marginalized person and trying to get your work published and recognized. There are lots of ready ways to incorporate more diversity info your reading list, especially if in genres that chronically recommend white men.
For someone like Samuel Delany, this Hugo situation is one of many like it through the genre's and society's history. Same goes for those who have been paying attention to the comics industry as it twisted itself in knots to avoid acknowledging manga, comics for children, and women creators, until it couldn't do so any more this year.
Things to remember when your loved ones or good friends suffer from depression, including the idea that at some times, a depressed person is like a drowning one - throw them a lifeline rather than trying to wade in after them.
The polished technology available in the first world is created with processes that leave the third world with highly toxic landscapes.
Scientists talk about the message they would leave for future species should humans die out. it mostly has to do with the scientific method, or sentences with surprising complexities as more science knowledge would be obtained.
Last for tonight, because we need it, sleeping kittens.
