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[The December Days theme this year is "Things I Used To Fully Believe About Myself." Some of these things might be familiar, some of them might be things you still believe about yourself, and some of them may be painful and traumatic for you based on your own beliefs and memories. The nice thing about text is that you can step away from it at any point and I won't know.]
#1: "Nerdery Precludes Sex and Intimaacy"
Let's start with something from my farther past, in the middle of my provincial (rustic, not Canadian) upbringing, at the point in time where the things that I have enjoyed for my life have run into, essentially, unflattering media portrayals. In media that is supposed to appeal to nerds, the brilliant brainy ones are saving the day, but it's a bit of a toss-up between whether they're also beloved by all, including incredibly sexy women that want to throw themselves at the nerd, or whether their world-saving heroism means they will not ever have the distraction or the detriment of being attractive to women. Outside of that specific media, in patterns that continue to this day, nerds are almost all supposed to be laughed at and condescended to, and no conventionally attractive woman would ever give them anything more than a scornful laugh.
( The Situation As It Was, And How I Avoided Becoming A Gamergater )
I no longer believe that being a nerd means no sex and no intimate relationships, and I'm much better and happier for it.
#1: "Nerdery Precludes Sex and Intimaacy"
Let's start with something from my farther past, in the middle of my provincial (rustic, not Canadian) upbringing, at the point in time where the things that I have enjoyed for my life have run into, essentially, unflattering media portrayals. In media that is supposed to appeal to nerds, the brilliant brainy ones are saving the day, but it's a bit of a toss-up between whether they're also beloved by all, including incredibly sexy women that want to throw themselves at the nerd, or whether their world-saving heroism means they will not ever have the distraction or the detriment of being attractive to women. Outside of that specific media, in patterns that continue to this day, nerds are almost all supposed to be laughed at and condescended to, and no conventionally attractive woman would ever give them anything more than a scornful laugh.
( The Situation As It Was, And How I Avoided Becoming A Gamergater )
I no longer believe that being a nerd means no sex and no intimate relationships, and I'm much better and happier for it.
