Well, they're not green.
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silveradeptThe wedding was wonderful and nice, and the people looked resplendent in their dresses and suits. The bride was beautiful, the groom was handsome, and the party was excellent. As it turns out, my eye color's not green, but blue. More on that later. Did run into an old friend from high school, who has now graduated college and has a girlfriend of his own. Got to take a dance with the bride (she gave me a perfect opportunity - she said "more of you should be dancing, and so I offered her my hand) and tell her a story about the first and only time that the groom and I got into fisticuffs with each other. Hopefully, the two of them have a blissful life together.
A projected plan of how hybrid cars will become reality. Mostly because people will be forced to buy smaller cars because of gas prices and all that. Although we may not make it that far, if the report that the country is very close to bankrupt is in any way true.
We might be closer to cryogenic suspension than we think. And if the whole stem-cells bit turns out and is accepted, we may only need cryo for just long enough to have the organs transferred. Or perhaps the one big organ. We might be closer to giant lifespan than we think.
Top 5 list of Myths about the United States. It's not quite Everything You Know Is Wrong, but it's close. Couple those thoughts with The Top 10 organizations trying to ensure that America is a Christian Nation and enforce their own Sharia (Here's some examples of what could be used) on the people. The sorts of groups that on paper are against conflict and war, but in practice may be supporting it the hardest. (When they're not trying to evade the IRS as best they can)
For those in relationships or considering them, keep this in mind, another Top 10 list, this one The Top 10 types of women to avoid. For those who love books more than women, a short commentary on why today's science fiction sucks - it's not optimistic enough. Too much of Space Invaders and not enough of chips that allow paraplegics to manipulate computers.
A children's story about DRM (PDF form). Everybody's aiming younger and younger these days for their ideologies. "Get 'em while they're young", indeed.
And finally, my eyes aren't green. I can't be jealous of how things turned out at that wedding. A good guy and a lovely girl got together and are married. It'll be great for them both, from the looks of things, and we hope it stays great for them for many years.
What that does do, though, is make me take a look at my own situation. I notice that I'm part of a dwindling circle of single, eligible men in group of friends and family. Lots of people around with significant others, in family and in friends. Sometimes I wonder whether my priorities are screwed up, but that usually goes away with the firm reassurance that without the degree bit, the rest is going to be a mite (1 mite = 1 AU) tougher to achieve. I like the job I'm at, so I should be able to succeed wherever I go. And I suppose that's part of it - my current residence is still temporary - I'm in the transient state, and so I suppose I'm fighting off long-term relationships and things like that simply because I don't want to get entrenched and then when it comes time to move, have to break up. So I have reasons to stay a bachelor, and even not to date, but unlike earlier in my life, the request by my body to find good companionship is getting much harder to ignore. Well, and the request of my mind to find good companionship, as well. It's not that I'm an incomplete person and need someone else, but I do function better in the dialectic rather than the pontificatory (although by reading this journal, you'd never guess it). I prefer bouncing ideas off people and gaining consensus and input rather than forging ahead unilaterally. (As always, exceptions exist.)
So I'm not really jealous of the people who have people in their lives. I'm just a little blue that I don't. Although, I suppose that's not an entirely fair or true statement, as obviously, I have friends who I communicate with and enjoy hanging around regularly. The fact that there isn't someone who I affix the dating label to shouldn't make much of a difference, and most days, doesn't. It's just when there are events that celebrate people coming together that it hits home a little harder. Call this some Stereotypical Feminine Behavior (C) (TM) (R), but the fact that I was never asked to the prom stings a little. (Admittedly, I did do some asking, and wasn't turned down, so that's probably not a fair example either. Someone will probably shred this whole entry on clarity alone.) That I really never made it into an audition-only group (all my organizations, even the Michigan Marching Band, were taking as many as they could when I was auditioning into them. I don't know, and probably don't think I'd get into the band auditioning as a freshman now.) Although, now that I think about it, I did have to audition into marching shows, and I did make them, and bowl trips, too, and looked at right, university application and job-hunting is a giant audition process, and I've gotten into those, so I suppose I'm not being fair there, either. (Now I'm just saving everyone the trouble of shredding me. As Calvin noted, seeing multiple perspectives is paralyzing.) Maybe it's just that I don't feel like I've ever "tried out for the team" and made it. Which is more a popularity issue than a merit one, perhaps, as qualification doesn't seem to be much of a barrier. And if it goes in that direction, that it gets downright silly, for reasons of having a good friend circle explained above. So when it comes down to it, there's not really a reason I should be blue, is there?
But I am.
But it'll pass.
A projected plan of how hybrid cars will become reality. Mostly because people will be forced to buy smaller cars because of gas prices and all that. Although we may not make it that far, if the report that the country is very close to bankrupt is in any way true.
We might be closer to cryogenic suspension than we think. And if the whole stem-cells bit turns out and is accepted, we may only need cryo for just long enough to have the organs transferred. Or perhaps the one big organ. We might be closer to giant lifespan than we think.
Top 5 list of Myths about the United States. It's not quite Everything You Know Is Wrong, but it's close. Couple those thoughts with The Top 10 organizations trying to ensure that America is a Christian Nation and enforce their own Sharia (Here's some examples of what could be used) on the people. The sorts of groups that on paper are against conflict and war, but in practice may be supporting it the hardest. (When they're not trying to evade the IRS as best they can)
For those in relationships or considering them, keep this in mind, another Top 10 list, this one The Top 10 types of women to avoid. For those who love books more than women, a short commentary on why today's science fiction sucks - it's not optimistic enough. Too much of Space Invaders and not enough of chips that allow paraplegics to manipulate computers.
A children's story about DRM (PDF form). Everybody's aiming younger and younger these days for their ideologies. "Get 'em while they're young", indeed.
And finally, my eyes aren't green. I can't be jealous of how things turned out at that wedding. A good guy and a lovely girl got together and are married. It'll be great for them both, from the looks of things, and we hope it stays great for them for many years.
What that does do, though, is make me take a look at my own situation. I notice that I'm part of a dwindling circle of single, eligible men in group of friends and family. Lots of people around with significant others, in family and in friends. Sometimes I wonder whether my priorities are screwed up, but that usually goes away with the firm reassurance that without the degree bit, the rest is going to be a mite (1 mite = 1 AU) tougher to achieve. I like the job I'm at, so I should be able to succeed wherever I go. And I suppose that's part of it - my current residence is still temporary - I'm in the transient state, and so I suppose I'm fighting off long-term relationships and things like that simply because I don't want to get entrenched and then when it comes time to move, have to break up. So I have reasons to stay a bachelor, and even not to date, but unlike earlier in my life, the request by my body to find good companionship is getting much harder to ignore. Well, and the request of my mind to find good companionship, as well. It's not that I'm an incomplete person and need someone else, but I do function better in the dialectic rather than the pontificatory (although by reading this journal, you'd never guess it). I prefer bouncing ideas off people and gaining consensus and input rather than forging ahead unilaterally. (As always, exceptions exist.)
So I'm not really jealous of the people who have people in their lives. I'm just a little blue that I don't. Although, I suppose that's not an entirely fair or true statement, as obviously, I have friends who I communicate with and enjoy hanging around regularly. The fact that there isn't someone who I affix the dating label to shouldn't make much of a difference, and most days, doesn't. It's just when there are events that celebrate people coming together that it hits home a little harder. Call this some Stereotypical Feminine Behavior (C) (TM) (R), but the fact that I was never asked to the prom stings a little. (Admittedly, I did do some asking, and wasn't turned down, so that's probably not a fair example either. Someone will probably shred this whole entry on clarity alone.) That I really never made it into an audition-only group (all my organizations, even the Michigan Marching Band, were taking as many as they could when I was auditioning into them. I don't know, and probably don't think I'd get into the band auditioning as a freshman now.) Although, now that I think about it, I did have to audition into marching shows, and I did make them, and bowl trips, too, and looked at right, university application and job-hunting is a giant audition process, and I've gotten into those, so I suppose I'm not being fair there, either. (Now I'm just saving everyone the trouble of shredding me. As Calvin noted, seeing multiple perspectives is paralyzing.) Maybe it's just that I don't feel like I've ever "tried out for the team" and made it. Which is more a popularity issue than a merit one, perhaps, as qualification doesn't seem to be much of a barrier. And if it goes in that direction, that it gets downright silly, for reasons of having a good friend circle explained above. So when it comes down to it, there's not really a reason I should be blue, is there?
But I am.
But it'll pass.
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Date: 2006-07-17 04:26 am (UTC)we caught a whiff of these feelings off of you this evening, we knew something was bothering you, and had hoped you would talk about it eventually. We're here for you, to talk to or just to get hugs from. *hugs*
(btw, this has no relevance but your eyes are blue most of the time, though a light/watered down blue-grey color. they're actually quite nice :))
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Date: 2006-07-17 06:21 am (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2006-07-17 02:47 pm (UTC)B) [*] Clearly a result of our organised system of self-reference. [/*N) Dry humour? Or completely serious? I can't actually tell.]
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Date: 2006-07-17 03:06 pm (UTC)no subject
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Date: 2006-07-18 08:52 am (UTC)[Disclaimer: no guarantee is provided that the snerkers in question are actually aware what a snerk officially is: in the lack of any other definition, assume a snerk to be a sound of amusement, its production method hard to describe in text.]
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Date: 2006-07-18 11:20 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-07-18 03:48 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-07-17 10:24 am (UTC)I suppose I'm of the second type, then.
See elsewhere.
When people don't respect you: work, be patient and change things around so they no longer have a choice.
Isn't the point of paralysis that any action would be devoid of the imagined morality that would normally motivate it? In that case, the destruction of false presumptions is a good thing, and the paralysis far more peaceful--and preferable, minimising disruption to ways of life--than interference would be. The long term benefits, likewise, only mean something when viewed through a filter of a moral system.
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Date: 2006-07-17 02:04 pm (UTC)You're not at some engineering school with a skewed male/female proportion, are you?
Yarha, Who has the Benefit of Experience in These Things
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Date: 2006-07-17 04:46 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-07-17 05:07 pm (UTC)Yarha, Worn on the..You Know: Cold Shower Time
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Date: 2006-07-17 05:56 pm (UTC)That's what I've been trying to tell him, too.
I would have been married when I got my degree, but my fiance and I broke things off when I was in my second year of college. Interestingly, he married his wife before she graduated, and now three years later is going through a divorce. I know a lot of folks my age who got married young and are now divorced. Some are even remarried, but I do think there's something to be said for waiting on the marriage bit....of course, that doesn't mean you can't have some fun while you're waiting and looking :)
What's unfortunate for me is his talking about feeling lonely and whatnot makes me realize that i'm probly in a worse position than he is...i'm four years older than him, and ALL but a handfull of my high school classmates are married/partnered. I've been to so many weddings in the past four years I'm almost getting tired of it. I wonder when my time will come, and then realiz e that well, that just might not be happening for me. I'm trying to get used to that.
I almost wish it was ok to just continually be casual with people and not have to worry about the whole commitment thing. *sigh* but this isn't the place for my rant, as this is SA's journal.
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Date: 2006-07-17 11:22 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2006-07-17 04:54 pm (UTC)(There is supposed to be a rough division such that European SF is more likely to be pessimistic, and American SF optimistic, judged between writers in the same time period.)
Frankly, his insistence that SF should "set a better example" is insulting. (It is more the case that, as he hints, SF reflects the impression that humanity has of the future; we think things are getting worse at the moment, so we see more pessimistic SF. This doesn't make it any better or worse than optimistic SF - in fact, pessimistic SF is often more complex in its treatment of things, while optimistic SF handwaves towards wonderous new devices which save humanity and allow mankind to be come perfect paragons of virtue. [Or, like Banks' Culture novels, is a utopia designed to mirror certain aspects of the now.])
But maybe I'm just being a stereotypical European SF writer and reader...
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Date: 2006-07-17 05:08 pm (UTC)Yep, that's what I thought, too. It would seem to me a matter of taste whether one likes utopian or apocalyptic sci-fi. Both versions can be good.
Yarha, Apuckerlips Now
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Date: 2006-07-17 11:18 pm (UTC)