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silveradeptYep, whatever was there is no longer, which is a thing that can be said of relationships and other interactions as well as posts, if you squint the right way. It with the long-time unhappiness, in with the new possibilities. Advice on what might help salvage a relationship before it's too far gone. But also the part where you have to realize the truth of what's going on. It helps if you have an idea of who you are (Rationality, Reverence, Sensitivity), but in many of the most important cases, that's not possible. And, perhaps, find the right story that can help get you out.
Take it one day at a time, and remember being human is good enough. Cultivate a positive body image.
Useful etiquette on pronoun usage and preferences. On the idea of gender as a feeling or emotion, rather than an immutable identity.
An aborted example of the negging technique. Don't do this, people. It gets you off on the wrong foot.
Jillian Holtzmann, autistic and queer? Certainly has the feel and the actions for it, even if Word of God doesn't confirm. Rachel Bloom on writing, starring, and producing a show that pushes the envelope and talks frankly. The Deadpool film didn't want to pay for the writers to be on set, so the main star did instead. Because you actually do want writers on set. The benefit of putting your show on premium cable is the ability to show nudity of all sorts - of course, if you actually want to show things, you have to be on those channels because of broadcast restrictions.
The private lives of DC heroes. Black Harley Quinn cosplay in the Suicide Squad style. The romance between a human and a mer-person.
A very large lot of celebrities would like you to vote this year, if you are in the United States and are eligible to do so.
There's still more work to be done than just voting. Take cues from those best positioned to know what's best. Read their works. Participate where they say, in the ways they request. Broaden your reading habits. Do the work without seeking rewards. Language is incredibly powerful. Choose wisely.
If someone is disabled and is having a good enough day to do something nice, celebrate them instead of accusing them of faking their illnesses. Understand that they have been told all their life that they should become the disabled person that doesn't need outside help. Judgment on someone else's body, especially unsolicited, rarely ends well. Especially thoughtless commentary. Teeth are often used as shorthand, which makes it criminal for teeth not to be included on plans to get everyone insured. All doctors should be held to the standard in this comic. Dieting doesn't help with health, HAES does, but neither helps with weight loss. Permanent contraception should be available to everyone who wants it, without gatekeeping.
Understand that loss is a thing and endeavor not to add stress or grief on top of that. Let people find their way through grief, and support them in it.
Respect someone's identity, always. Including the way they write their name, the way they choose to look, how they describe themselves, and how they choose to refer to their ancestry.
Representation is so important, especially to teenagers. No, really, representation is very important to teenagers. Teenagers deserve education that is accurate and inclusive to all their identities. Comics can help disseminate valuable information. (Comics that are not destroyed by censorship, that is.) Sometimes looking at a familiar character in a new way helps. Fighting to see more nuanced and accurate depictions on television helps. Reading a book with themes above one's supposed age group helps. Actually believing someone when they say what their identity is would help a very large lot. Adjusting your vocabulary to be more inclusive helps.
Everyone deserves a family or group to call theirs. Each person should be able to claim the identity they want, the hobbies they want, and be able to make their outer presentation match their inner self. However they choose to style themselves. And whatever size they need for it. Then choose the companions they want. Regardless of what they look like.
A good idea - show what beauty products look like on different skin tones.
A better idea - women who know what condoms they like and carry their own.
First Lady Obama says men need to be better when it comes to their dealing with women.
The War on (Some) Drugs isn't effective, according to a police officer that has been undercover for it, and now is coming to grips with what damage they may have done.
Tamora Pierce could do with movie adaptations. The case for divorce being normal in fantasy fiction. The need for good twists that affect the characters, rather than the audience.
Lovers of ancient Greek stories.
After the destruction wrought on Japan, many of the women came home as brides for the United States soldiers, and then had to live in the country.
What appears to be an act of cruelty might have a lot different meaning in the right context. Or it might be an act of cruelty that others can justify.
The popularity of those no longer pretending to be perfect mothers should say something about the expectation of perfection from mothers.
The feeling of brain fog - how people with mental issues may be while affected. What anxious people might be thinking about, even if they don't appear to be anxious. What some mental illnesses might look like if given form.
An open letter to the Internet asking us to fix the fucking problems that allowing unfiltered abuse has gotten us in to. Which I put next to denunciation of the content of Donald Trump's character, his choice of "humor", choice of reality, (and those that vote to put him in power) for likely obvious reasons.
The idea that J. K. Rowling is the best fan of Harry Potter, and this compelled to try and keep improving it, much to the aggravation of the fans who don't see it that way at all. A convincing argument for why those books should be "Hermione Granger and...".
A year of not throwing away one's shot. Of art capturing the feelings involved and the players that bring the drama to life.
Sweden has made governmental incentives to encourage repair and reuse and punishments for buying new disposable things.
Disclaimers about films being fiction have to do with someone suing about the inaccuracy of a film. And it involves Rasputin.
Fanfiction with original characters is a time-honored tradition - Shakespeare did it. As did Virgil. The decline of romantic fantasy - once material started arriving that suited tastes better, the genre that was almost to many declined.
The very earliest humans are likely to have arrived on the North American continent by boat, rather than land bridge.
Things that interfere in getting writing out the door.
Avoiding fear of things that are scary, like driving.
Tony Stark is not special. He cannot bankrupt a nation. His characterization is...not great, at best.
Photographs of the changing fashion of the Victorian bride. The history of women's sport often involves men saying that sport is bad for women and that they shouldn't participate, even into the current era. Despite the bevy of black girls and women winning medals at the Olympic Games and breaking world records (even when their bouquets have bees in them).
Sailor Mod? Cosplay in fuku. And the Sailor Evening Dress Scouts.
Cosplay for a movie that hasn't been released yet, Moana. Frozen with a cast of many black people.
An argument in favor of the mystery of illusions, and the ethics code that comes with it. The greatest illusionist of his time may have been a soccer player that never had to actually play or show his skills.
A ballet staged on the set of a movie about going to the moon...that's not actually in the movie about going to the moon.
The continued overexploitation of natural water resources in Oregon is contributing to the likelihood of drying up those resources.
The drift of Australia requires a significant GPS correction by the end of the year.
Photographs of the Perseid meteor showers, transforming a dress by leaving it submerged in the Dead Sea for a few months, translucent statues in the forest, constructing flowers in ice bricks, re-creating old photographs, using weighted blankets to help adults sleep better, what hot tea looks like when thrown into below-freezing weather, and sculpture in brick that casts different shadows depending on the angle of light.
Fingerprint collection technology on phones may be used to try and collect identifying data on thieves. Reasons to update your software regularly. The wireless signal around a computer may deform in ways that can be interpreted to read keystrokes. Recommendations to use lower intensity LEDs for street lighting, relaxing games for your mobile devices, a store of gadgets and interesting successful Kickstarter projects, visions of the future from the distant past, fountain sculpture that requires the water to be on for the picture to be complete, WhatsApp using its relationship with Facebook to share your days and give you ads in return, technology to help with painting nails, scientific experimentation about life on other planets through isolation, miniature crime scenes, and octopus-looking soft robots.
Horses. can be trained to communicate by pointing, cats and Doctor Who together at a cat show, professional photography of goats and sheep, majestic Maine Coon pictures, a goldendoodle on vacation, capybaras and other animals, a cute Bengal with spots, the Landlord's Game, using cat breeds, the successful best day of a dog that was in a fighting ring, a squid that looks like a child's toy, artistically constructed sushi to resemble mosaic, using photomanipulation techniques to produce a Clifford effect, a kitten and a baby waking up together, black and white photographs of cats, cats that look like Toothless from How To Train Your Dragon, and dinosaurs and women competing together.
Last for tonight, Stanislov Petrov, the man who prevented nuclear war.
The art of taking better selfies, with men providing the examples.
The reasons why people should still be out and proud and allies too after horrific violence to the marginalized.
Photographs of a couple still clearly affectionate for each other.
And Build-An-Eevee.
Take it one day at a time, and remember being human is good enough. Cultivate a positive body image.
Useful etiquette on pronoun usage and preferences. On the idea of gender as a feeling or emotion, rather than an immutable identity.
An aborted example of the negging technique. Don't do this, people. It gets you off on the wrong foot.
Jillian Holtzmann, autistic and queer? Certainly has the feel and the actions for it, even if Word of God doesn't confirm. Rachel Bloom on writing, starring, and producing a show that pushes the envelope and talks frankly. The Deadpool film didn't want to pay for the writers to be on set, so the main star did instead. Because you actually do want writers on set. The benefit of putting your show on premium cable is the ability to show nudity of all sorts - of course, if you actually want to show things, you have to be on those channels because of broadcast restrictions.
The private lives of DC heroes. Black Harley Quinn cosplay in the Suicide Squad style. The romance between a human and a mer-person.
A very large lot of celebrities would like you to vote this year, if you are in the United States and are eligible to do so.
There's still more work to be done than just voting. Take cues from those best positioned to know what's best. Read their works. Participate where they say, in the ways they request. Broaden your reading habits. Do the work without seeking rewards. Language is incredibly powerful. Choose wisely.
If someone is disabled and is having a good enough day to do something nice, celebrate them instead of accusing them of faking their illnesses. Understand that they have been told all their life that they should become the disabled person that doesn't need outside help. Judgment on someone else's body, especially unsolicited, rarely ends well. Especially thoughtless commentary. Teeth are often used as shorthand, which makes it criminal for teeth not to be included on plans to get everyone insured. All doctors should be held to the standard in this comic. Dieting doesn't help with health, HAES does, but neither helps with weight loss. Permanent contraception should be available to everyone who wants it, without gatekeeping.
Understand that loss is a thing and endeavor not to add stress or grief on top of that. Let people find their way through grief, and support them in it.
Respect someone's identity, always. Including the way they write their name, the way they choose to look, how they describe themselves, and how they choose to refer to their ancestry.
Representation is so important, especially to teenagers. No, really, representation is very important to teenagers. Teenagers deserve education that is accurate and inclusive to all their identities. Comics can help disseminate valuable information. (Comics that are not destroyed by censorship, that is.) Sometimes looking at a familiar character in a new way helps. Fighting to see more nuanced and accurate depictions on television helps. Reading a book with themes above one's supposed age group helps. Actually believing someone when they say what their identity is would help a very large lot. Adjusting your vocabulary to be more inclusive helps.
Everyone deserves a family or group to call theirs. Each person should be able to claim the identity they want, the hobbies they want, and be able to make their outer presentation match their inner self. However they choose to style themselves. And whatever size they need for it. Then choose the companions they want. Regardless of what they look like.
A good idea - show what beauty products look like on different skin tones.
A better idea - women who know what condoms they like and carry their own.
First Lady Obama says men need to be better when it comes to their dealing with women.
The War on (Some) Drugs isn't effective, according to a police officer that has been undercover for it, and now is coming to grips with what damage they may have done.
Tamora Pierce could do with movie adaptations. The case for divorce being normal in fantasy fiction. The need for good twists that affect the characters, rather than the audience.
Lovers of ancient Greek stories.
After the destruction wrought on Japan, many of the women came home as brides for the United States soldiers, and then had to live in the country.
What appears to be an act of cruelty might have a lot different meaning in the right context. Or it might be an act of cruelty that others can justify.
The popularity of those no longer pretending to be perfect mothers should say something about the expectation of perfection from mothers.
The feeling of brain fog - how people with mental issues may be while affected. What anxious people might be thinking about, even if they don't appear to be anxious. What some mental illnesses might look like if given form.
An open letter to the Internet asking us to fix the fucking problems that allowing unfiltered abuse has gotten us in to. Which I put next to denunciation of the content of Donald Trump's character, his choice of "humor", choice of reality, (and those that vote to put him in power) for likely obvious reasons.
The idea that J. K. Rowling is the best fan of Harry Potter, and this compelled to try and keep improving it, much to the aggravation of the fans who don't see it that way at all. A convincing argument for why those books should be "Hermione Granger and...".
A year of not throwing away one's shot. Of art capturing the feelings involved and the players that bring the drama to life.
Sweden has made governmental incentives to encourage repair and reuse and punishments for buying new disposable things.
Disclaimers about films being fiction have to do with someone suing about the inaccuracy of a film. And it involves Rasputin.
Fanfiction with original characters is a time-honored tradition - Shakespeare did it. As did Virgil. The decline of romantic fantasy - once material started arriving that suited tastes better, the genre that was almost to many declined.
The very earliest humans are likely to have arrived on the North American continent by boat, rather than land bridge.
Things that interfere in getting writing out the door.
Avoiding fear of things that are scary, like driving.
Tony Stark is not special. He cannot bankrupt a nation. His characterization is...not great, at best.
Photographs of the changing fashion of the Victorian bride. The history of women's sport often involves men saying that sport is bad for women and that they shouldn't participate, even into the current era. Despite the bevy of black girls and women winning medals at the Olympic Games and breaking world records (even when their bouquets have bees in them).
Sailor Mod? Cosplay in fuku. And the Sailor Evening Dress Scouts.
Cosplay for a movie that hasn't been released yet, Moana. Frozen with a cast of many black people.
An argument in favor of the mystery of illusions, and the ethics code that comes with it. The greatest illusionist of his time may have been a soccer player that never had to actually play or show his skills.
A ballet staged on the set of a movie about going to the moon...that's not actually in the movie about going to the moon.
The continued overexploitation of natural water resources in Oregon is contributing to the likelihood of drying up those resources.
The drift of Australia requires a significant GPS correction by the end of the year.
Photographs of the Perseid meteor showers, transforming a dress by leaving it submerged in the Dead Sea for a few months, translucent statues in the forest, constructing flowers in ice bricks, re-creating old photographs, using weighted blankets to help adults sleep better, what hot tea looks like when thrown into below-freezing weather, and sculpture in brick that casts different shadows depending on the angle of light.
Fingerprint collection technology on phones may be used to try and collect identifying data on thieves. Reasons to update your software regularly. The wireless signal around a computer may deform in ways that can be interpreted to read keystrokes. Recommendations to use lower intensity LEDs for street lighting, relaxing games for your mobile devices, a store of gadgets and interesting successful Kickstarter projects, visions of the future from the distant past, fountain sculpture that requires the water to be on for the picture to be complete, WhatsApp using its relationship with Facebook to share your days and give you ads in return, technology to help with painting nails, scientific experimentation about life on other planets through isolation, miniature crime scenes, and octopus-looking soft robots.
Horses. can be trained to communicate by pointing, cats and Doctor Who together at a cat show, professional photography of goats and sheep, majestic Maine Coon pictures, a goldendoodle on vacation, capybaras and other animals, a cute Bengal with spots, the Landlord's Game, using cat breeds, the successful best day of a dog that was in a fighting ring, a squid that looks like a child's toy, artistically constructed sushi to resemble mosaic, using photomanipulation techniques to produce a Clifford effect, a kitten and a baby waking up together, black and white photographs of cats, cats that look like Toothless from How To Train Your Dragon, and dinosaurs and women competing together.
Last for tonight, Stanislov Petrov, the man who prevented nuclear war.
The art of taking better selfies, with men providing the examples.
The reasons why people should still be out and proud and allies too after horrific violence to the marginalized.
Photographs of a couple still clearly affectionate for each other.
And Build-An-Eevee.
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